Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Are we all mad?

A fellow woman (divorcee with two children from separate men; one her former husband and the other the husband of another whom she even befriends) insulted another 'geler', 'bete', 'malade mentale' because the lady asked her to refund money she collected from her 9 months ago for a purpose she did not fulfill. Looking deep into the abnormal acts posed by the former who insults another not knowing she isn't living a better life than hers, we probe into our daily madness. We are all mad in our different different ways and levels. When you see someone behaving abnormally, you think that person is gone crazy right! Indeed! And that is happening more often today than ever before because of the many worries we all have.

The psychological drain we suffer today is running everyone berserk or bananas. You find people well appareled soliloquizing. You'd see them take a step forward and one backward, talking harshly to themselves and with themselves. They are asking themselves what has become of them. When you see them especially those you recognize, you start asking what has become of this well, trimmed individual. Why is he or she acting?

You've not thought about yourself, have you? Those moments when you get so confused about how to solve your piling problems. The children are screaming for food; your bills have not been paid, your spouse is on your throat for having not fulfilled a certain promise and your whole life is tensed. You start hallucinating and contemplating ending your life. Life for you has become an illusion. There is no joy, no more laughter as it used to be. All is misery. All is worry. You start screaming at everything in fact you are mad at whatever comes your way that would seem to consolidate your troubles or misery. You need help.

You are not poor. You are a very rich man. But there is no day you are at peace with yourself because you are in constant search for more. There is this little story of a king who had everything but was never happy and could not put a finger at what he wanted. He seemingly had all he needed except the inner joy that makes life worth the salt.

He saw one of his servants at the courtyard light-hearted and joyful. When he inquired from the servant what his secret was, the servant told him, he had enough to feed his family and to have a roof over his head. He could not ask for any better.Later the king called his personal assistant and put the question to him why the servant who had so much less than he could be so contented and happy. The personal assistant told him because the servant had not joined the '99' club. He advised the king to put 99 gold coins and place them in a bag at the servant's doorstep. That the king did. And when the servant later opened the bag, and counted 99 coins, he went in search of the missing coin. His whole life changes. The joy he had faded away and everything around him became a nuisance as he determined to work very hard to recuperate the missing coin. The next day, when the king saw the servant, his demeanor had changed. He was no longer the happy, singing servant.

The more we have the more we search for more. We may never put our finger on the missing coin in our lives. We get mad at not being able to assume total control of everything in our lives. That's why you see many of those rich people always working hard to dupe other people and continue to strive for more. Striving for more is always good but let's not strive so hard and for so much that we lose all those near and dear to our hearts. We should not compromise our happiness for moments of luxuries.

When we look at our lives carefully we see a trait of insanity in them. Our insanity may not be as pronounced as that of those folks who walk the streets naked or who don't seem to have any more meaning for life. But as psychiatrists tell us all of us are either insane or mentally deranged (if not, how can a fellow woman whose life is a mess call another names, when she is not any better ) at different levels. Circumstances may lead us to worse situations and we too shall be like others.

When you see a mad person, don't laugh at him. Look at yourself;you may be like that person someday.None of us is excluded as we go searching for that one missing coin in our lives.

Take heed not to render yourself an instrument of worldly pleasure. For the more you think about them, the more you become mentally deranged, disturbed and paralyzed.

Friday, November 7, 2014

Empowering Self

The basic philosophy of life is to live it irrespective of the trying moments that may come your way. You would realize that no single moment passes you by without you learning one more thing about life. Friends may despise, enemies will trip you, hypocrites will pretend to venerate you; many will sometimes make you feel you are infallible. You think of yourself as perfect even when you hurt others knowingly.

 Life is a school. Each day we live, we have opportunities to learn lessons. Like in every school situation, there are lessons you will like and others you will abhor. You would succeed in some and feel good about it. You will fail woefully in others and you will be devastated. Take Courage! As long as you live those lessons will occur and reoccur. Even when you think you have mastered them, the moment will come when you'd look like a fool. For the tests will come and you would feel totally blank and incapacitated. But remember failure and disappointment are part of the learning experience of life.

 As the lessons of life are presented to you every day and in various forms, keep conning them. Don't forget there will be another lesson to learn even when you think you have mastered the previous ones. For so long as you are alive, there are always lessons to learn. So what you make of life is up to you. God has given you all the resources and tools you need to live a well-defined life. The choice usually remains with you, how much you'd want to make use of those resources.

If something does not seem to work for you in the classroom life, if someone is doing something you don't want them to do to you, take control of your life (like Frankie did yesterday on Big Brother Africa Hotshots when sipe and ellah pushed the buttons hard to break him. He mastered his emotions and walked out of the scene. Take a look at Ellah after Frankie's calm retirement of the discussion. For that peeps, Frankie should stay longer in the house because he is exactly the kind of specie Africa needs for development, peace and progress) and be the one who should dictate the pace at which you are going.

Someone said Life is too precious to leave it in the hands of someone else. Never expect anyone else to take care of the intrincasies of your life. You cannot trust your life to anyone. God is the only one you can trust to steer your life. Other people can act as advisors but never allow someone's opinion to overweigh your own.

Learn to empower yourself. Such empowerment begins when you take control of your life, when like the gospel minister T. D Jakes says 'You have had enough, when you take appropriate steps to make order out of what happens and when it happens in your life'.

As you live and learn lessons of life, do not forget that whatever you do, right or wrong, will have an impact on someone - Your children, your friends, your church, and your country. You will live behind a legacy - make sure it is one of excellence, of tenacious living, of sharpened intellect and spiritual accuracy. Maximise the moments of your life. If you allow the machinations of the people around you to perturb you and throw you out of focus, you are headed for the pit. And there are so many who would want to see you drown; for whatever reason, only they would know.

And that is why society, Our Society is full of scoundrels, people who are villainous who would never wish to see the good in others but themselves.

To prosper in life, you must learn to discard such people and their selfish notions. Live you life everyday knowing the lessons are many to learn. Don(t be a fool to succumb to the trappings of others, God will make a way for you because HE gave you your life and wants you to live it abundantly.

Have a Lovely weekend. And while you enjoy it, let us take the rendezvous tomorrow as from 3pm exclusive to Stv on Surviving Adolescence.

The Rose within you

When I woke up this morning and took yet another deep breath of fresh air, I lifted my eyes in gratitude for once again benefiting from the abundance of GOD's grace. I know deep inside that it is not a gift for everyone to enjoy such abundance of GOD's manifestation of his love and bountless mercy. Yet as we all know all of life's experiences are faced with uncertainty and with an attitude of 'deja vu'. The question we usually have the tendency to ask is 'what's new?'
Many things happen to us that even where there are glaring changes, we take them for granted. Every day we live is an inexplicable miracle. We cannot explain why we breathe, why it happens that some live with so much corpulence and others barely crawl through life. We cannot explain how someone we were with only a few minutes previously, should be lying motionless in death.

That's the miracle of life which we are called upon to live in abundance sharing its quality its fullness

It is not how much you have but what you do with what you have. On the same token, it is not how long you live, but how your life touches others. Talking about touching others, I got a little story from a big friend which I'll like to share with you.

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully. Before it blossomed, he examined it. He saw a bud that would soon blossom. He also saw the thorns, and he thought, 'How can any beautiful flower come from a plant, burdened with so many sharp thorns?'

Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose,and before it was ready to bloom, it died. So it is with many people, Within every soul, there is a rose - the God-like qualities planted in us at birth, growing amidst the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only thorns, the defects. We despair, thinking nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realise our potential.

some don't see the rose within themselves. It takes someone else to show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns and find the rose within others. This is the truest, most innocent, and gracious characteristic of love - to know another person including their faults, recognize the nobility in their soul, and yet still help another to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the rose, they will conquer the thorns. Only then will we likely blossom, bloom thirty, sixty, a hundred fold as it is given to us.
Our duty in this world is to help others, by showing them their roses and not their thorns. It is then that we achieve the love we should feel for each other.
and blessings with one another.
We are called upon to live in peace, contentment, patience, hope and in faith. And through this, we shall together be able to stand the storms of life and live it in all its fullness. Only then can we bloom in our own garden. Yes it is only then can we live life in all its abundance. I just played my role in wishing you a great Saturday
, and an awesome weekend.